Showing posts with label Inspirational. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Inspirational. Show all posts

Wednesday, December 28, 2016

CUP OF WATER IN A DRUM

I decided to write this post to offer what little encouragement I can to others like me, who from time to time have to deal with some form of discouragement. Having had quite a bit of experience, dealing with discouragement quite, I think I can say that I understand just how destructive it can be. Discouragement is a defined as:

"a loss of confidence or enthusiasm; a feeling of having lost hope or confidence"

I have either heard of or seen quite a few extraordinary events and accomplishments that make me wonder just how powerful humans are and just how much we are capable of.  At the 2005 Champions League final match, I saw Liverpool turn around a 3-goal deficit against an AC Milan team that looked set for victory to lift the UEFA Champions League Cup and last year, many of us watched Leicester City do the impossible against a 5000 - 1 odds prediction to win the Premier League for the first time in their club history. I read of and watched (in the movie 'Jobs') the college dropout Steve Jobs, start Apple Computer Incorporated in his parents garage and turn it into a global brand. We saw Barack Obama, backed by what he calls "The Audacity of Hope", somehow win an election many had said a black man could never win, to occupy a position of authority many never believed he could. Now, he lives in a house, whose name at first hearing might insinuate was not meant for someone of his color to live in - twice.

Oprah was born to extreme poverty in rural Mississippi and brought up in inner-city Milwaukee, enduring abuse as a child. Despite this, she is the richest African-American of the past century, with a net worth of 3 billion dollars. Many consider her to be one of the most influential woman in the world today. John Paul DeJoria was born to Italian and Greek immigrant parents. This billionaire was forced to sell newspapers before the age of 9 so his family had food to eat. He also lived in a foster home, was a part of a street gang and jumped through a number of odd jobs. With a measly start-up loan of $700, he began what is now known the world over as the Paul Mitchell line of hair products. His net worth is over 2 billion dollars. 

Haile Gebreselassie was one of ten children born in rural Ethiopia, forced to run 12 miles every day to get to school and back. He would later become one of most successful athletes in the world, with two Olympic gold medals in the 10,000m. Halle Berry was raised by a single mother in Cleveland, Ohio, even spending time in a homeless shelter while she tried to pursue her acting dreams in New York. As of 2014, she's still the only black woman to have won an Oscar for a leading role.

Countless other stories of extraordinary deeds performed by ordinary men and women abound, and after careful study of these stories and the circumstances surrounding them, I discovered that there is one common ingredient to all their success stories, apart from the fact that they started off in a disadvantaged position, of course. I found that ingredient to be hope - hope for a better tomorrow, hope that things would eventually turn around for them if they worked at it. These remarkable people all believed that where they started from didn't have to be where they would remain for the rest of their lives, and armed with such strong convictions, 'hoped' enough while working hard to get out of where they are. Today their stories teach us of perseverance, even in the worst of situations.

Once I read a story about a farmer who lived in Africa, who through information received from a visitor became tremendously excited about the prospects of discovering diamonds. Diamonds were already being discovered in abundance on the African continent and this farmer got so excited about the idea of finding millions of dollars worth of diamonds that he sold his farm to head out to the diamond line. He wandered all over the continent as the years slipped by, constantly searching for diamonds, his key to wealth, which he never found. Eventually, he went completely broke, threw himself into a river and drowned.

Meanwhile, the new owner of his farm picked up an unusual looking rock about the size of a country egg and put it on his mantle as a sort of curiosity. A visitor stopped by and in viewing the rock practically went into an excited frenzy. He told the new owner of the farm that the funny looking rock on his mantle was about the biggest diamond that had ever been found. The new owner of the farm said, 'Heck, the whole farm is covered with them' - and sure enough it was. The farm turned out to be the Kimberly Diamond Mine . . . the richest the world has ever known. The original farmer was literally standing on 'Acres of Diamonds' until he sold his farm.


The moral of this story is simple enough. Let's stop walking around feeling dejected and discouraged looking for a breakthrough because most times, we already have all we need. We just need to look within and refuse to give up hoping for a better tomorrow. Every little bit of effort we put into whatever work we do is like a cup of water going in a big, big drum. While one cup may not fill the drum up or do enough to lift your spirit concerning finishing the task soon enough, when we look into the drum, we must realise that every cup of water we've poured in is still in there and surely, with enough cups that big, big drum would be filled and run over. 


For a better humanity,
Diazno

Sunday, February 14, 2016

Eyes on the Road (4) ***THE FINALE***

Hi, glad you're reading this because it's the finale!!!! In my last three posts, we've talked about the need to look forward, avoid distractions and deal with obstacles in out way. All this while still maintaining our focus on the goal which is ahead of us. Just in case you missed those posts, here are the links:

Eyes on the Road (1)

Eyes on the Road (2)

Eyes on the Road (3)

To conclude this series, I'll be sharing an experience I had in my early days as a driver, and the lesson I learned from it (yes, it's a driving story...again). It was just before the LCC Toll Gate on Admiralty Way. I had planned to go on the e-tag lane but somehow found myself driving in the far left lane which happens to be the 'wrongest' lane to be in. I urgently needed to make my way from there to the extreme right. I indicated with my trafficator that I'd like to switch lanes (as I was taught in driving school) but neglected to check behind and around me to see what was happening there (as I was also taught in driving school). To cut the long story short, I almost caused a multiple crash, and once again, felt very stupid. In my defense, it was in my early days as a driver, so please don't judge me. I'm sure it won't happen again.

As I continued my journey, I thought about the incident, trying to figure out what I did wrong. I kept my eyes on the goal (the e-tag lane at the toll gate), I avoided distractions and there were no obstacles in my way. So what went wrong?! After a bit of thinking, I gained some understanding as to why I nearly crashed and subsequently came up with a theory which I'm going to call "Diazno's Theory of Drastic Changes". It reads:

"If you're gonna make a major change, don't be rash. Slow down - stop if necessary - look back, look sideways and be sure you're not going to crash or cause someone else to".

I remind myself of this as much as possible so I don't completely forget. Making changes, drastic ones especially, is a major part of moving forward but these changes must be carefully and purposefully effected with a clear picture of what's behind. Once you make that switch, it may be very difficult and sometimes impossible to reverse it or it's effects on those around you.

Confucius, the great Chinese philosopher once said,

"Study the past if you would define the future". 

A wise saying from a wise man. If you're in a transition phase, it would be really wise of you to pause and take a very good look at what's behind because once you make that switch you'll need to follow through with a great deal of focus.

Toward a better humanity.

Yours sincerely,
Diazno

Monday, January 25, 2016

Eyes on the Road (3)

In my first two posts, we talked about the need for us to NOT look backwards as we strive to move forward, and also to avoid distractions as we go. Just in case you missed both posts, here are the links:



In this post, we'll be learning about obstacles and no, there's no 'driving-in-Lagos' experience to go along with this lesson.Instead, we'll be relating it to hurdles - the sport, which is a form of obstacle racing. 

Before we proceed, what really is an obstacle? According to the Oxford Dictionary, an obstacle is:

"a thing that blocks one's way or hinders progress"

Obstacles, like distractions, come in various forms. They can be physical, economic, political or even cultural. And while we all agree that obstacles - in whatever form they choose to appear in - can be very detrimental to our progress, we must also realize that they are VERY inevitable. The athletes participating in any hurdles event realizes this and don't bother complaining about the obstacles in their lanes. Come to think of it, wouldn't it be absurd to hear a hurdler lament about having to race with so many obstacles in his way? Isn't that supposed to be the beauty of the sport?

It's quite obvious that the point of a hurdles race is for the athletes to get to the finish line in spite of the hurdles in their way. only athletes who successfully scale every hurdle to get to the finish line can ever hope for a place on the winners' podium. Going under hurdles, side-stepping them or even intentionally knocking them down maybe out of frustration would only get one disqualified.

We won't be celebrated for our ability to accurately pinpoint the location of each obstacle or give a vivid description of the form of the obstacle. No one cares to read your analysis (at least, not until you're at the end of the race) and surely no one has time to feel sorry for you. We all have obstacles of our own to deal with, don't we?

It is also important to note that even when faced with obstacles, in form of hurdles this time, the hurdler keeps his/her eyes NOT on the hurdle but on the goal ahead. It is their ability to maintain such unwavering focus on the primary goal, which is the finish line, that equips them to scale each hurdle. We also nee such unwavering focus in our lives to overcome the obstacles in our way.

So once again, keep your eyes on the road (or should I say track this time), try not to knock hurdles over in frustration, do not slow down more that is necessary because that may affect your momentum. Maintain your focus, step over the obstacle in front of you and prepare for the next one ahead. keep doing this and in no time you're at the finish line.'

Happy running!

Towards a better humanity.

Yours sincerely,
Diazno.


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Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Eyes on the Road (2)

In my last post (which also happened to be my first), we established that 'forward' is the right and most natural direction to move in. We also established that as we move forward, we are to keep our eyes on the road ahead of us. Easier said than done, right?

The truth is that we are well aware of the need to keep our eyes on the road ahead but some things just won't let us. They come in various forms, shapes and sizes and are present at every point of our journey. They are known by very many names in different languages and cultures but I have come to know them simply as "distractions".

The Merriam Webster Dictionary of English Language defines a distraction as:

"Something that makes it difficult to think or pay attention".

I recall one Saturday morning when I understood clearly how destructive distractions can be. I was heading to work and as I was driving down Ozumba Mbadiwe, I noticed this new billboard with a face that didn't seem so familiar (and some information I thought at that time was important to me). The bottom-line is that I was driving past the billboard and I did the stupid thing - I took my eyes off the road I was driving on and turned to look at the billboard. I could swear it was just for a second but the resultant effect was a near collision with the concrete barrier in the middle of the road - and when I say 'near collision', I mean NEAR COLLISION.

My first instinct after my narrow escape was obviously to say "Thank you Jesus!!!" (I'm Nigerian after all). My next instinct was to talk to/scold myself and I honestly did ask myself, "How stupid can you be? Like really??? You turned around to look at a billboard??!! The information there probably doesn't even concern you and you nearly crashed our car for it. God saved you!". I don't quite remember all the details but I think I hissed at myself after scolding myself (also as a proper Nigerian). While all this was going on, I'm sure 'Mr Distraction' was there watching from a distance, saying to himself "Mission accomplished".

I won't forget that day in a hurry, and I'm guessing that in the past, we all might have had a near-collision experience or worse as a result of one distraction or the other. If we take this experience away from driving and look at it's life application, we'll see that we've made so many good decisions in the past that if we had followed through with would have yielded so many benifits for us. We were doing so well navigating the road ahead until we got distracted, and in what seems like a second we've wasted that business idea, or abandoned our list of new year resolutions, or dropped in the academic rankings in school or even damaged that promising relationship.

It'll only take a second for "Mission accomplished" so whatever you do as you set your goals for 2016 and work through them, don't take your eyes off the road - even for a second.

Yours sincerely,
Diazno


Thursday, December 31, 2015

Eyes on the Road (1)

It was a sunny afternoon somewhere in Surulere, Lagos. Big bro and I were returning from one of his training programs at City Hall, alongside some of his staff. We were reviewing the day's activities and then, it happened! A truck pusher going about his business nearly collided with our car and if not for my brother's presence of mind and expert driving skills, we probably would have been parked on the side of the road re-enacting that all too popular scene that plays out on our Lagos roads.

My first question, which I didn't bother asking by the way was, "Is that man blind?". It didn't look like he had lost control of the truck he was pushing; it was obviously a case of someone almost ramming into our car for 'no good reason' - that I couldn't understand! But understand I did, because the first statement my brother made was, "Can you imagine? He's moving forward yet he's looking backwards". It was a simple statement that helped me make sense of not just the 'almost-accident' we narrowly escaped from, but also of life in general. And to this day I have never forgotten that statement:

"He's moving forward yet he's looking backwards". 

Image result for moving forward in life quotesWhy do our feet point forward? Why are our eyes in front? Why are the rear view mirrors in cars so small? Why is the front windscreen in cars comparatively larger than the rear windscreen? Why is it easier for us to navigate moving forward as opposed to moving backwards? It's clear that life was designed such that we are constantly moving forward, at least, ideally. So, what happens when we 'focus' on what's behind even when we're moving forward like we should be - we crash into stuff or crash stuff or much worse get crushed by stuff! Not such a nice thing, yeah?

The sad truth is that many of us are guilty of the 'moving-forward-but-looking-backwards' syndrome. We rightly divine that 'forward' is the right direction and begin to move in that direction but sadly, our eyes aren't pointing in the right direction: feet forward, eyes backwards. It's a new year in a few hours and we all need to move on from 2015, with our eyes forward and on the road ahead of us so we don't crash.

I wish us all a prosperous 2016 filled with lots of forward motion.

I will write again.

Yours truly,
Diazno